Feb 10, 2014

How to Accept Yourself as Writer, Artist and Human Being

The Lizard Passes Judgment
by John Magnet Bell

Do you ever compare your life and achievements to somebody else’s, only to feel that you come up short on the Scale of Cosmic Perfection?

Do you find yourself, despite all your rationality, vulnerable to a twinge of status anxiety every now and then?

Do you feel unlucky at times?

I have a method to deal with those feelings. And it begins with the Litany Against Fear in Frank Herbert’s Dune:

I must not fear.
Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
And when it has gone past I will turn the inner eye to see its path.
Where the fear has gone there will be nothing.
Only I will remain.

In short: embrace negative thoughts. Let them run their course. Observe them. Practice critical distance. You may need some help in achieving that, as introspection is an art. You will need help and advice from friends, family and professionals. You’ll have to educate yourself using a variety of sources.

Remember, though, that not all sources are created equal. You wouldn’t take driving lessons from someone who’d never driven a car, or enroll in a Tai Chi class taught by a Dalek. Right?



Accept that “Normal” Does Not Exist

Do not ever, EVER beat yourself up for feeling bad. We live in a culture of positivity, where people misunderstand deep psychological discomfort until they have experienced it themselves.

Beware of absolutes. A Barcelonian girl I once knew told me that “Nobody feels right” and that’s just not true. You can feel right. You can feel at peace. You can improve the way you feel right now by acknowledging and listening to your emotions.

Some people will say of themselves, “I am a happy person,” and mean it. That's 100% OK. Others will say the same hoping to make the statement true by dint of repetition. Burdening yourself with unreasonable expectations imposed from outside only brings you harm and self-rejection. Oh, and happiness does not confer special privilege --

Nobody has the right to demand you be a carbon copy of themselves. Period.

Nobody has the right to demand you fit into a specific psychological frame.

Nobody has the right to demand your obedience to standards they can change at whim.

As Yamamoto Tsunetomo dictated to his young secretary a long, long time ago, “By bringing shame to a person, how could one expect to make him a better man?”

art flood after the jump
Serenissima
by David Fleck

2011-09-27 22_31_56
by Daily Rorschach

Generative Portrait
by Can Pekdemir

Jacky Tsai

Randolph A. Barry

fearwithout

Javier Vallhonrat for Vogue Italia, 1988

Jean-François Lepage

Disorder in the Imperial City
by Oekaki

Yodaling
by Louis Roskosch

Slumbear
by Wharton

The Traveller
by Cristian Eres

s a l t
by Chris Grundy

Francesco Albano

Emily Waters

Aakash Nihalani

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